Of course I’m thankful for the usual things: my health, my home, my family and friends, what the rising stock market has done for my 401(k) since 2008. But since I’m leaning waaaay into kink (for research purposes, you know), here’s a different list of things I’m glad are in my life.
1. Ellora’s Cave. In 2001, the incomparable Jaid Black started the ball rolling to provide erotic romance to millions of women, and her company is still one of the best publishers in the genre. I’m proud to be an EC author. By the way (bit of self-promotion here), MERCY AND REDEMPTION, available now in digital format, will be in print on December 23. Add it to your wish list now!
2. Dr. Charley Ferrer. She’s a world-renowned sexologist who has enlightened doctors and psychologists in China, Venezuela and other countries as well as the United States on the subject of Domination/submission. She was also responsible for some serious education with her first two BDSM Workshops for Writers. Next year’s conference, August 21-24, 2014 in New York City, will appeal to readers and authors alike. Besides workshops on how to enhance your erotic romance writing, it will feature lifestyle practitioners demonstrating various aspects of the BDSM culture as well as a visit to a private dungeon.
Joining me in a two-part workshop that weekend are some of my favorite EC authors:
3. Samantha Cayto. One look at her website, with its cuffs and whips motif, will tell you a bit about her books. She loves to write male/male stories as well as those featuring kick-ass heroines.
4. Joey W. Hill. Don’t miss her Master of the Boardroom series. Or her Nature of Desire series. Or….just about anything she writes. In 2011 she received the Career Achievement award in Erotica by RTBookReviews.
5. Desiree Holt. She won the first 5-Heart Sweetheart of the Year Award at The Romance Studio, and has been dubbed “the Nora Roberts of erotic romance” by USA Today.
I'm also thankful for some kinks I've experienced in the name of research, including:
7. Violet wand electro-play. I addressed this delicious kink in a blog after the first BDSM for Writers conference.
8. Spanking. I also discussed my initial foray into spanking in the above blog. But it just might become addictive the more I give and receive it. As with any impact play, it’s not about being a pain slut, it’s the connection between spanker and spankee and all the lovely interaction.
9. Flogging. Yes, it really does feel like a good, hard massage. And it can be more. So much more. Again, it’s the connection.
10. Rigging. Stay tuned for more on this subject because, now that I’ve actually been tied up, I plan to go “all the way” and be suspended with ropes.
And, to round out the dozen:
11. Brimstone. It’s billed as the Northeast’s premier kink convention, and here’s why. More than a hundred workshops on all manner of kink during the three days of Thanksgiving weekend. A massive dungeon to play in at night. Massage/spa area. Even a room set aside for orgies (I might look in on that in case I want to write a scene with 4 or 5 or more participants…but I’d probably need a road map to follow who’s who).
12. Fetlife. The place where kinksters connect with each other, discover places to meet and play, and gather information about whatever subject interests them, because if it’s kinky, someone will surely have already written about it on Fet.
What are you thankful for at this time of year?
~~ Cris Anson