Tuesday, May 27, 2014

FRIDAY'S THE DAY!


This Friday, May 30, Ellora’s Cave is releasing REDEMPTION AND GLORY. As you’ll see from the blurb below, it’s my hottest book to date. And what an in-your-face cover! Which is great, because Mistress Glory is an in-your-face heroine.


REDEMPTION AND GLORY (#3)
Bored with all the groupies who provide him with anonymous sex, famous sculptor Adam accepts the offer to lurk behind a voyeur screen at his agent’s BDSM club. Watching the magnificent Mistress Glory in action, Adam is so smitten that he can’t decide if he wants to tame her or kneel before her.

When Davinia helps her business partner Mercy at a book signing, a magazine’s “Most Eligible Bachelor” and the man of her wet dreams comes by to help publicize the event. Instant lust turns to chagrin when he addresses her as Mistress Glory.

As the two novices to Dominance and submission explore what turns them on in this exciting new world, the journey takes explosive twists and turns. Add the sexy agent and his slave, and anything can—and does—happen: a steamy ménage with both m/m and f/f action and lots of dungeon activity resulting in one scorching-hot story.

The other books in this series:
 

PUNISHMENT AND MERCY (#1)
Mercy, a wanton widow in 1690s Massachusetts Bay colony, is forced to marry a blacksmith to mend her reputation. Trouble ensues when his young apprentice falls in love with her.

MERCY AND REDEMPTION (#2)
Three strangers meet in an old cemetery 300 years later and sparks fly. Mercy realizes she’s known these men before and they have unfinished business. Which one will she choose this time?
You can purchase my books here and at most other electronic outlets:
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So sit back in the shade with an ice-cold drink and enjoy!

~~ Cris Anson


Wednesday, May 14, 2014

Authors Discussing BDSM


I hope you’ve read my recent blog listing lifestyle practitioners who will present hands-on demonstrations at the upcoming BDSM Writers Con at the Roosevelt Hotel in New York City August 21-24. Today I’d like to feature some of the authors who will be giving workshops.


Joey W. Hill, Keynote Speaker
Recipient of the RT Book Reviews Career Achievement Award and author of more than thirty contemporary and paranormal BDSM erotic romances, Joey W. Hill is also a practicing submissive in her personal life. Her website has free excerpts and information on all her available titles. Among her delicious works are the Nature of Desire series and the Knights of the Boardroom series published with Ellora’s Cave. As her website says, she wants her characters to “reach a soul-deep understanding of one another through the expression of their darkest sexual needs, and then growing from that understanding into love.”

Dr. Charley Ferrer, Host & Founder of BDSM Writers Con
A world renowned Clinical Sexologist and BDSM Expert, Dr. Charley Ferrer has taught various workshops on Dominance and submission throughout the U.S., Latin America and China, earning her the title of America’s BDSM Expert. She has taught various workshops on BDSM to both the general public and authors and has created several webinars on this and other topics. The award winning author of over a dozen books on relationships and sexuality, including BDSM for Writers and BDSM the Naked Truth, Dr. Charley is currently writing a new book on ways to enhance your relationship titled 30 Shades of Kink, due to be released later this year.

Natalie Acres aka Destiny Blaine
Award-winning, bestselling author Destiny Blaine uses several pseudonyms in various genres. Writing under the pen name Natalie Acres, some of her BDSM titles have claimed Amazon’s #1 spot in erotica. Her BDSM western and paranormal titles have been bestsellers at Bookstrand, ARe, and other third party retailers. Natalie and her husband live in East Tennessee. When not writing, she can often be found at a ballgame, casino, or on a sandy beach with a book in hand. 

Cris Anson
Cris Anson's interest in BDSM has been evident since her first erotic romance was published by Ellora's Cave in 2005. In her soon-to-be-released fourteenth book, Redemption and Glory, two novices to BDSM learn what turns them on, but their exploration turns explosive when a second man enters their Domination and submission games. Cris has given or received floggings, violet wand, spankings, power exchanges, and other elements of BDSM, all in the name of research. Her books consistently receive 5-star and Recommended-Read reviews.

Miranda Baker
Miranda Baker is the author of the Come Again and Double Helix series for Samhain Publishing. When it comes to sex and love, there’s something for everyone, and she delights in giving happily-ever-afters to her quirky characters. A firm believer in write what you know (except when it comes to BDSM with superpowers—she wishes!), Miranda often puts work into play with her kinky husband. 

Sorcha Black
Co-author of the Badass Brats series, Sorcha Black writes about kinky bisexual women in poly relationships. She became a romance writer after meeting two nefarious authors on the internet. Perhaps unsurprisingly, Sorcha enjoys tattoos and foul language.

Scarlet Hawthorne
Scarlet Hawthorne loves to include elements of BDSM in her erotic romances because, as a 24/7 submissive in a DD household, she hopes to reverse the misinformation and negative stereotypes promulgated in the media. She has also published mainstream romances in a variety of genres, from paranormal to romantic suspense, under other pen names. Scarlet’s upcoming release is the M/M Romance, Between the Notes.

Debra Hyde
Debra Hyde is nearing her twenty-year anniversary in the BDSM scene. For sixteen of those years, she was an owned submissive and although her master “aged out” of dominance in his senior years, they’re still attached to each other and still playing. Devotion is ever-lasting.

Michael Makai
Author of the Amazon best-seller, Domination & Submission: The BDSM Relationship Handbook, Michael Makai has been a lifestyle Dominant for 37 years, a behind-the-scenes mentor and educator on BDSM and D/s for decades, and has been active in dozens of fetish lifestyle organizations in Europe and the U.S. Michael believes that the key to understanding the lifestyle and the people in it is to be able to recognize the very distinct differences between BDSM, which is something you do, and D/s, which is a relationship dynamic.

Kallypso Masters
Bestselling author Kallypso Masters writes emotional, realistic Romance novels with dominant men and the women who bring them to their knees. Her real-to-life BDSM themed Rescue Me series has opened a dialogue with many readers new to the genre—and the lifestyle she loves to write about. 

Cassandra Park
An editor and writer (erotic and mainstream) who has been in the BDSM lifestyle for more than 25 years, Cassandra Park dabbles in many types of play but gravitates to spanking and discipline play. She and her husband attend several spanking parties a year around the country. Cassandra writes about the scene on her blog, Sandy’s Room. In the vanilla world, she enjoys photography, reading, and making things. She lives in Queens, NY.

Dr. Matthew Scrivens
Dr. Matthew Scrivens discovered the true strength and resilience of the human heart when he provided therapy to murderers, molesters, and rapists in hopes that helping the perpetrators of such crimes might result in fewer victims. Having journeyed the black night of the soul innumerable times with many troubled clients, Dr. Scrivens has developed a familiarity and understanding of the dark side of human psychology. Using what he has learned and experienced, Dr. Scrivens has presented his knowledge as a guest blogger and conference speaker. His best-selling gay erotic thriller Sole Survivor was published in 2012.

Leia Shaw
Leia Shaw is the bestselling author of the paranormal romance series, Shadows of Destiny. More recently, she’s branched out into the erotic world by co-authoring the bestselling BDSM ménage Badass Brats series, which is not only known for its fun representation of the lifestyle but also loving and realistic polyamorous relationships.

Shannon West
Shannon West currently lives in the South with her husband and large family. A lover and avid reader of M/M romances, she has over forty short stories, novellas, and novels to her credit. All nine novels in her wolf shifters series, Dark Hollows, became best sellers on Amazon, ARe and Bookstrand. She writes BDSM and ménage as well, including Taken in Hand, Taken Firmly in Hand, Mastering Matthew and The Education of Nicholas. She loves men and everything about them, and believes that love is love, no matter the gender!

Susan Wright
In 1997 Susan Wright founded the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, a national advocacy organization for the BDSM, swing and polyamory communities, and currently serves as its spokesperson. She chaired the successful DSM-5 Revision Project, and coordinated the SM Policy Reform Project for the National Organization for Women (NOW) which resulted in rescinding their anti-BDSM policy at their national conference in 1999. Susan has written kinky Contemporary Romance novels as well as Urban Fantasy, Fantasy, Science Fiction and Star Trek books. The USA Today Bestselling Author has published more than 30 novels and nonfiction books on art and popular culture with Pocket Books, Penguin Group, St Martin’s Press and Kensington. 


I hope this whets your appetite for the BDSM Writers Con – which, by the way, is not just for writers, but for readers and all those interested in BDSM as well. Come join us!

~~ Cris Anson

Wednesday, May 7, 2014

Sir Guy and Karida: Exploring A Dominant/Submissive Relationship



I’m honored to have on my blog today a man who has lived the Dominant lifestyle for many years. Sir Guy and his girl karida held the title International Power Exchange 2013 Couple. As a result of being a First Responder during the 9/11 attacks on the World Trade Center, Sir Guy  contracted a neuro-endocrine cancer, for which he has had open heart surgery and removal of parts of his liver. Here he talks about his relationship with karida and what it’s like when the Dominant cannot assume his role.

My readers are very interested in learning more about the Dominant/submissive dynamic. As the 2013 International Power Exchange Couple, obviously you’re doing something right. Can you tell us a little about your D/s relationship?

Our relationship started as an on-line friendship. We had been corresponding on-line periodically and she commented on some of my frequent posts. As my illness became more profound and debilitating I found myself purging myself of people around me who had ulterior motives or who were not understanding of my personal limitations. I had even thought that I could not have a D/s relationship because I was too ill and dependent to be assertive enough to lead.

My conversations with karida led me to believe that I might have been erroneous in that assumption. They led me to believe that it was possible for me even while I was going through medical issues to be the Dominant I thought I should be. We started a long distance relationship with a lot of correspondence via phone, text and e-mail until we finally were able to occupy the same space.

Before karida I had not thought of myself as a "Daddy", because I believed there was nothing in my mind that distinguished a Dominant from a "Daddy" in hierarchical relationships. I learned through karida that the difference is primarily how one deals with the girl inside of the woman. This is not to say that there is always smooth sailing and that things are perfect. All relationships have their share of issues but trying to use various tactics of communication and resolution can help with longevity.

What makes your girl karida so special to you?

I am opinionated, demanding, controversial and passionate. I may neglect myself for a cause or sacrifice myself for a principle. I can act as a rescuer, a protector, a mentor, a big brother when I see someone in need. I can be hard headed, obstinate and determined. I can also be tender, loving, caring, giving. It takes a special person to see all those things in me. It takes a patient woman to wade through all that I appear to be to find the me that exists deep within. It takes a unique woman to stimulate my mind, my heart and my libido. It takes an intelligent woman to meet me on a certain plane, to comprehend what motivates me. It takes a superlative woman to love a man who makes it difficult to love him, to trust your heart with him, to give your soul to him, give your obedience to him, to submit your will to him. I don't make it easy.... and though I always believe I am worth it, it takes someone real special to believe it too. That makes her my girl.

I knew that I was not in optimum condition when we began this relationship and there was no guarantee that I would get any better. It is and will be a continuing struggle, yet, knowing this, she was willing to relocate and take the chance of dealing not just with my ailments but with all the other stuff that accompanies me in addition to that.



I know you’ve suffered many physical problems brought about by your being a first responder at the World Trade Center during 9/11. How has your relationship with karida changed by your not being able to be the dominant person during your recovery?

Well, most people have a honeymoon period at the beginning of their relationships that they can always look back on fondly when things get rough. We didn't have that. We went right into the fire, and that can be very stressful to any relationship. Add to that the stress of getting to know each other since we started our relationship long distance, the stress of economics, her moving over 1000 miles to live with me, trying to fulfill our title obligations of teaching in various areas, dealing with intra-organizational politics and the fact that my stamina and patience were constantly challenged, and it could be a struggle. So far we haven't killed each other.

Can you tell us how your International Power Exchange title came about? What does that honor entail?

The contest was the brainstorm of Sir Top and slave bonnie of Beyond Leather in Florida. So often, titles focus on individuals or solely upon the Master/slave dynamic and that's all good. But there are other power exchange dynamics, some unconventional, that exist and thrive in our communities and they felt those needed to be explored and recognized as well. We believed in the message of that contest and the idea that it was a teaching title, not a beauty contest or popularity contest, and that other types of power exchange dynamics (such as triads, Daddy/girl, Daddy/boy, Mommy/boy or girl, Owner/puppy and others) could be represented. We also liked that a part of the contest was helping others understand their dynamic. It involved us teaching in various venues about our dynamic and representing our lifestyle both to those within the community and to those outside. We've been privileged to have been interviewed individually or together by The New York Times, Huffington Post, Esquire magazine and periodicals and tabloids from as far away as Switzerland.

How does the D/s lifestyle mesh with your everyday life with your family and friends?

Personally I have been out and public for a few years. Karida has been active in the community for over a decade but not as high profile as I, so this raised her profile and exposure a bit. My family, including my children, have some knowledge of what I do, my oldest son having more details because it seems he's inherited my genes for this. Most of our friends and acquaintances are in the D/s lifestyle so for us, it's really not a problem. We don't really have to hide or explain much. Besides, it's not like we walk down the street with leashes or chastity devices exposed. We are basically just an average pair who happen to live a particular lifestyle.

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Thank you so much for sharing your insights with us, Sir Guy. I wish you a full recovery and I thank you for your service to our country over your years as a police officer, EMT and First Responder.

Note: Below is a more complete bio of Sir Guy as well as links to several articles and videos in which he is quoted.

Sir Guy is an Emeritus Board member of The Eulenspiegel Society (TES) and its Media Representative. He is the facilitator and a member of MAsT Metro NY, a member of Feel Me Breathe (FMB) and Black BEAT and an Associate Member of ONYX Northeast. He has started a group in the NYC metro area geared toward the socio-educational needs of POC (People of Color) called The Dark Lair which meets monthly at Purple Passion in Chelsea NYC. A BDSM educator who has presented at a wide variety of venues including colleges, he has appeared on interviews on WWWRL 1600 AM Pride Equality Radio, Huffington Press Live, the New York Times, Relapse magazine, Le Monde newspaper in Switzerland, The Diana Montford Show, Metro New York newspaper, Esquire magazine and other venues.

LINKS:

TES, a not-for-profit BDSM / Leather / Fetish group dedicated to the social interaction, educational exchange, and ever-changing diversity of our community.

YouTube video (2/27/13) re difficulty of First Responders getting assistance for their 9/11-related illnesses, featuring Sir Guy.

In-depth New York Times article (2/27/13) on BDSM which quotes Sir Guy among others.

HuffPost video (12/4/13) panel discussion of BDSM with Sir Guy and others in the lifestyle.

~~ Cris Anson